It Can Make A Difference

4 years ago, the Friday before Thanksgiving, my husband and I wanted to call it quits.  That was a horrible night that I will never forget.  I wasn't sure what going to happen.  I was scared.  I was angry.  I was hurt.  I was disappointed.  I know Hubbie was all those things and more.

I felt that Hubbie had let me down by him losing his job.  I was pushing Hubbie to his breaking point by fussing at him for not making our situation better.  We both had so many issues, but the big issue is that we had our finances staring at us and we were out of money.  I was sooooo done trying to do "creative financing" and I wanted Hubbie to make it all better.  We threw around the word divorce and bankruptcy...  Hubbie was very adamant that that was not the way out, but we couldn't really see another way.

The next day, the Saturday morning before Thanksgiving, we got a phone call from my Dad and he told us to meet up with a couple that would be able to counsel us.  We are forever grateful to that couple for sacrificing their time to help and to my parents for not allowing us to not do anything and to give up.

That first counseling session was weird.  I felt like a failure for needing to get counseling.  I wasn't too worried about what these people would think of us.  I mean, we couldn't really hide our faces that probably showed everything we were feeling.  I was more concerned with letting the facade fall down- the perfect image.  The image that it was all ok, but it wasn't.  We couldn't lie anymore.  Our marriage was as low as it ever has been.  We had issues a mile long....

Slowly we began to climb out of the huge hole.  We were able to discuss our mistakes and what our expectations had been.  We began to talk and respect each other.  We began to try.

I am forever grateful for the people that were there to help and pray for us.  If we had given up, we would have missed the last 4 yrs of our lives.  We wouldn't have Peanut and Baby Bean and who knows what kind of issues we would have created for Bubbie.

I married my husband on June 21, 2002, but I feel like the weekend before Thanksgiving 2005 gave us a fresh start and a new anniversary to celebrate.  We celebrate marriage, God's forgiveness, family and second chances....